Therapeutic Approach

Rudy believes we are meant to be connected to others. Whether his client is an individual, a family, or a couple, he attends to their therapy and counseling goals by utilizing interventions and techniques that supports skill-building (i.e. communication and self-expression), increasing self-awareness and insight (physical and emotional), and teaching the art of mutual empathy and sympathy.

Rudy’s therapeutic approach and foundation lie in the field of what Dr. Dan Siegel has coined as, Interpersonal Neurobiology.  This body of research and model explores the complex patterns that create the human experience. This INTEGRATION model demonstrates how the links between: the body & the mind, psychology, sociology, anthropology, neuroscience, physics, and even spirituality interplay, overlap, and influence one-another toward optimum well-being.

Rudy also relies on the many components of  Attachment Theory to integrate in his work. Attachment examines how human beings bond and why, and what can get in the way of secure and healthy relationships.  Healthy attachments create the condition for individuals in the relationship to experience a sense of stability, safety, and security toward feeling confident to take risks, stretch comfort zones, grow, and develop, love and be loved.

This personal blueprint can become out of balance with the presence of both current or historical trauma, depression, grief, anxiety, and sometimes just from the challenges of repeated stresses of life. The therapeutic relationship between the therapist and client can be powerful catalysts for repairing emotional/physical wounds, increasing coping skills, rebuilding self-esteem, enhancing confidence and independence, and transmitting those positive changes into every area of their life.

Rudy’s “therapeutic toolbox” also includes:

  1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which helps you explore the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
  2. Psychodynamic, modalities, which place emphasis on how your past influences your current and future ability to have healthy and functioning relationships
  3. Family Systems Theories, which look at how relationships and interactions within families (systems) can create stubborn patterns of dysfunction and resistance to change.
  4. And finally, with shorter term frameworks like  Solution-Focused and Narrative Therapy, where the focus of treatment is brief and time limited. These two post-modern theories shift the therapist’s focus from spending time processing  “what is wrong” with the client’s behaviors to working on magnifying their strengths and abilities.

Rudy Hayek, MA, MFT